Students and seniors shared stories on subjects as diverse as transgender identity to photo sharing.

There was a younger crowd on hand at the Neighborhood House Senior Center on June 13, when a high school class from the Oregon Episcopal School (OES) joined Senior Center members for a history discussion. OES holds a class each year on Contemporary American Issues: Race, Class and Gender that culminates with living history – a cross-generational discussion at the Neighborhood House Senior Center.

Students spent the semester exploring issues of race, gender and class with a contemporary lens, including a unit on how the media affect and reflect those issues. The best way to view modern issues is through a historical lens, according to OES History and Social Studies Department Chair Stephanie Portman, who teaches the class. And what better way to experience that lens first-hand than interacting with people who lived in different eras. In this case, members of the Neighborhood House Senior Center.

On the last day of school, 11th graders from the class met their older counterparts to talk, exchange stories and ask questions of each other.

The two groups have been meeting annually for several years in connection with the OES class, but this was the first time they’ve been able to meet in person since the pandemic shut-downs moved everything to Zoom.

The OES class included a unit about senior isolation and the importance of maintaining a sense of community for senior health. “One way we can help with that is to honor the experience of senior adults with an opportunity to lift their voices with high school student interaction,” Portman said.

Many people struggled with a lack of social connection before the pandemic and continue to do so afterward. The isolation was especially hard on senior populations, affecting both mental and physical health. Places like the Neighborhood House Senior Center are critical to senior health by creating connections with peers, and also with young people from OES. 

“It’s important for the students to hear the Seniors’ wisdom and experience on topics like dating, jobs, and what school was like for them growing up,” Portman said.

Students and seniors gathered in small groups of 4 or 5 and took turns asking questions and sharing stories. The students started off the questions, but there was plenty of back and forth. “It usually turns out that the members here ask more questions about the young peoples’ experience,” according to Carol Vaughn, the Senior Center Program Manager.

Some of the student questions included: Did you play a sport? What expectations were there for young women when you were our age? Did you have racial diversity at your school?

Barbara Murray brought photos from her childhood to share, which started a conversation about the move to digital photos. Scarlett Jacobson was fascinated by the old photos and lamented the move to digital images. “If you lose your phone or get a new one, you could lose everything. So many memories – gone in a flash.”

The class made Scarlett realize “stories aren’t valued enough.” Now she makes more of an effort to talk with her grandparents and listen to their stories, an outcome Portman hoped for with the history class.

Another group talked about gender and politics. One woman shared that her grandchild is transgender and how that was a series of learning moments for her. OES student Tiago Moreno talked about the current state of political polarization, particularly since the 2016 election, and lamented “this is all our generation has ever known.”

A group of four at another table had a lengthy discussion about women’s rights that started with Morgan Matthews’ question: “Do you feel like people were held back by not being encouraged to go to college?”

“Yes indeed, women in particular,” was the answer. “Back then we took aptitude tests to find out what our skills were, where our interests should lead us. But for women, the only choices were nursing, teaching, or being a secretary. They asked all those questions and yet those were the only career choices. My test results showed a strong interest in medicine and everyone told me I should be a nurse. But my uncle was a doctor and I wanted to be like him. It was all on us to explore other options and how to make it happen.” She went on to graduate medical school and became a pediatrician, but recognized that her family had the means to support that dream. “Economics played a huge role in my opportunities, then as now.”

“It’s really nice that folks were willing to come talk with our students,” Portman said. But in the end, it was obvious everyone benefited from the shared conversations.

For ideas on multi-generational questions to ask in your family, read this article from Fortune magazine.

I started using the Free Food Market. I learned about more programs that could help us. But the biggest change wasn’t the services themselves.

It was how I was treated. 

For the first time in my entire life, I was met with dignity. 

I wasn’t talked down toI wasn’t made to feel ashamed for needing help. I wasn’t forced to “prove” I deserved to survive. At Neighborhood House, people spoke to me with genuine respect, something I have so often not been given, simply due to my circumstances. That changed everything. Even now, it still brings tears to my eyes. 

When you’re disabled, when you’re parenting alone, when you’re just trying to get through the day without falling apart…asking for help is hard. Being treated with kindness backed by action? It’s life-changing. 

That kindness empowered me. 
I joined the Head Start Policy Council. 
I became involved in statewide advocacy work. 
And eventually, when someone asked iI would consider joining the Neighborhood House Board, I said yes. 

Being on the board fills a need I’ve carried my whole life: the deep need to give back. There is so little any one person can do alone. But when we connect, when we come together as a community, everything becomes possible. 

People sometimes ask me why services like Neighborhood House still matter. 

My answer is simple: 

Because income inequality is growing. 
Because our systems do not prioritize people in poverty. 
Because without places like Neighborhood House, people really would go hungry. Children would go without resources necessary to thrive. Housing insecure families would be turned out into the streets. 
And that is simply not acceptable.

Until we change the systems that create these conditions in the first place, we need community-based organizations that keep people alive, keep families housed, and treat every neighbor with dignity.

And there’s one more thing I want you to know:

No one chooses this. 

Everyone is doing the best they can. 
Sometimes people just need a little boost.

When you donate or volunteer at Neighborhood Houseiis truly life changing. You may never meet every person you help—but please know there are so many of us who feel overwhelmed with gratitude because these services exist.

I am one of them.

So today, as we close out the year, I’m asking you to help more neighbors like me.

Here’s how you can help right now: 

  • Make a gift today — your support goes directly to families who need it most.
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  • Share my letter with a friend who believein a more just and caring community.

Thank you for believing in this work.

Thank you for believing in people like me. 

With gratitude,

Love 
Board Member & Program Participant 
Neighborhood House 

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